I have a theory. A social theory about how men and women choose the person they will settle down with (which in my humble opinion is different). Not exactly a tested theory, but an often observed social pattern. Here it goes…
The way men and women choose who they will ‘settle down’ with is a bit different. Of course there are exceptions (no uniform rules). But I find that men generally make a decision at some point in their life that they are ready to settle down. Some men do this earlier than others, sometimes there’s a life event that prompts this (breaking up with a girl, turning a certain age). Nonetheless, for men it’s a decision, whether conscious or unconscious, and the next person that comes along that meets their criteria is ‘the one’.
A guy could have the most amazing girl, but if he’s not ready to settle down, if he hasn’t made that decision- it’s not going to happen. Period. If he does settle down against his will or better judgement, he most definitely will not be happy.
Now women. Women are different. Of course not all women (some women set out looking for a man) but generally, I find this to be accurate. It’s not necessarily a decision for women, but something that happens or develops in a relationship. For example, if a women is single it’s hard for her to decide to settle down or even imagine that (or maybe this is just me). Once a women meets a man she feels like could be ‘the one’ then she starts to think about settling down and decides it’s right. It’s not a decision for the women pre-relationship, but it totally depends on the guy.
So to summarize- for men it’s a decision to settle down at some point in their life (well, I guess some might not even get that far), for women it’s meeting the guy, then the feeling they could settle down with him. There you have it- the strategy of how men an women settle down by Julie Webb.